Wednesday, January 05, 2005
my daughter is 7 and gets 'pressure' from school kids
hair cut for her body for what she wears... unbelievable!
are some support places to figure out how to deal with self image. Like
here is a clip from the childparenting place....
Clemes & Bean (http://childparenting.about.com/msubbook.htm)
have identifed these four conditions of self-esteem in children.
-A sense of connectiveness
-A sense of uniqueness
-A sense of power
-A sense of models
I highly recommend their work because it is practical and useful. I
frequently refer to their now out-of-print book, Self-Esteem: The key to
your child's well-being. The mastery tasks of elementary school build the
child's sense of power, but what about the other three conditions?
Elementary children build a sense of uniqueness when
-their opinions and feelings are accepted and valued;
-they have opportunities to explore individual interests;
-their unique learning styles and intelligence patterns are valued;
-they have opportunities to use their imagination and express their
Children build a sense of connectiveness when
-they have a sense of family and cultural heritage;
-they feel connected to their own bodies;
-they have their own special possessions;
-they feel part of a group.
Children build a sense of models when
-they are taught right from wrong;
-they have a broad range of new experiences;
-they have order and structure in their daily lives;
-they learn to set goals and solve problems.
The big thing is to continually search out and learn new ways of dealing...
now... I have to get to work and deal with those things!